After they’ve finished writing a book, most new authors probably think they’ve completed the hard part. WRONG!
When I first e-published THE BOOK, as I have called it for some time, I titled it WINK.COM. It was the perfect name. Until I realized that ANOTHER person or group owns that domain name. This caused all sorts of conflicts.
Initially I chose the title because some online dating sites have an option where subscribers can “wink” at a potential date instead of communicate with a real message. This wink is an indication of interest.
I met my boyfriend on a website which offered a wink option.
One of the reasons I was impressed with him is that he did not choose to wink at me, but instead wrote me a sentence or two. The very fact that he took the TIME to actually write to me was a plus. Also, he mentioned something in his first e-mail to me that indicated he had bothered to look at my PROFILE.
I’ve discussed in this forum that doing something which indicates to a potential date you are INTERESTED in THEM is important in making a good first impression.
Anyway, I thought WINK.COM was a good metaphor for the whole online dating thing. I actually wrote one of my first blog posts about why this is true.
So why change the name of THE BOOK if it is so “perfect”?
Again, I found out someone has the domain name registered, so no one else can legally use it. My first solution to THIS problem was to call THE BOOK “WINK
com”. I used the winking smiley face picture instead of the DOT in DOT COM.
However, when you attempt to send a news release to publicize your book, most publications won’t use a piece of colored art just to say what the name of the book is.
This leads to a very easy-to-understand conclusion: Picking the name of a book is harder than writing 100 pages of same!
Another thing I have learned for sure in the past couple of months: Finding a way for potential readers to find YOU once you have written a book is harder than picking the book’s name!
Did you know when you e-publish a book, you have to use “keywords” in your blog or website so that GOOGLE and YAHOO and other search engines will direct people searching for your topic to you?
For example, when I was doing this blog, I used the “keywords” profile writing a number of times. I did so because those are the words most people seeking an online date put into the little Google or Yahoo search boxes at the top of their computer pages.
When you put the words “second chance dating online book blog” in the search box, MY BLOG comes up FIRST among more than 800,000 websites or blogs on the topics related to those words.
WOW!
The only thing is, though, if people see how many times I use the words “dating profile” in my blog, they think the book is JUST ANOTHER BORING HOW TO BOOK with tips on how to write a profile. Honestly, I do offer a profile writing service–ON THE LAST PAGE of my book as AN APPENDIX.
Really, THE BOOK (which may be renamed soon for the reasons mentioned above) is NOT a SELF HELP BOOK AT ALL. Instead, it is a funny look at a 50-something year old woman who has started dating again.
THE BOOK relates actual, real life online dating adventure (?) stories. These stories could be about anyone OF ANY AGE trying to date again after:
- he or she breaks up with a long time partner
- he or she gets divorced
- he or she is widowed
- he or she ventures into the dating world for the first time.
THE BOOK is also a great read for people who are NOT looking for someone to date!
This means if you are married or in a relationship you’ll like laughing about the dilemmas faced by those people who are NOT.
You’ll end up thanking your lucky stars that you don’t have to go through these dramas anymore.
THE BOOK may even make you grateful for your spouse or significant other again if you’re feeling a little bored with a steady relationship
FINALLY, to my many friends who have asked me the age old question: “If I buy your book do you guarantee I will meet someone to love online?” the answer is. . .NO.
I CAN GUARANTEE:
- You will realize that EVERYONE looking for love is in the same boat;
- You will laugh at me and my dating experiences (and you might learn a few things TO DO or NOT);
- You will recognize a LOT of people that YOU know (although they may not recognize themselves);
- You won’t be sorry you bought the book (if you are there is a money-back guarantee).
